Should I be offended....?

Earlier this week, my really rather cheeky friend Ph commented that I was 'looking pretty darn boobilicious'. He then went on to tell me that he was in fact, addicted to boobs (well, he is male) and very much appreciated an attractive pair. Now this got me thinking (once I'd stopped laughing at the inappropriate messages he sent me post-conversation...!). Should I be offended by this?

I was wearing a lowish cut, pretty tight top but I hadn't put it on because of the 'boobilicious' effect (honest) it really was the first thing out of the wardrobe that morning. However, was I upset about the result of my wearing it? Absolutely not! Maybe I should've been a bit put out by him talking to me like that? After all, I was at work, we're professional people, but honestly, I thought it was funny and really rather flattering. I mean, a girl's gotta take a compliment where she can huh?

Without wanting to sound big-headed (because I'm not I assure you. As I've said before, many body issues....) I do get the 'nice rack' type comments on a fairly regular basis and most notably in the workplace. Financial service industry office workers, they're all about the tits (in the public service sector it's pretty similar so it seems...). I spent many a happy Friday afternoon (post lunch-time drinks you understand) trying to hide my glee when my boobs were given notable mention by the men on my team. I protested of course, ''Shut up J – you're an offensive, chauvinistic pig”. You have to don't you? It's what everyone expects. 

However, many years ago, one particularly cheeky (and rather hot) manager wrote a poem for me as I left the department for pastures new. I can't remember most of it, but the ending went something like: '21, there she sits – nice blonde hair and great big......eyes! Embarrassed? Slightly. Secretly chuffed that the young, handsome boss thought I had good tits and had just told the rest of my department? Hell yes! In all honesty, I'm always pretty chuffed when the ladies get a mention. I've spent years wearing the good underwear – I'm just pleased to continue to see the results and to collect the compliments. (Is compliment too strong a word? Have I totally lost my mind along with the vaguely feminist principles I once pretended to have?)

I feel similarly about being called a MILF. Not in the traditional way, by my son's friends (he's only eight – that would be very wrong) but by random younger men. Yes, it's a bit crass but come on; you show me one mother who would rather be a mother-you-wouldn't-like-to-f*ck and I'll show you a liar.

There's one young man in particular who has been known to refer to me as a MILF and several of my girlfriends think it's awful. How dare he? What a prick! What an offensive thing to say! Really?? To be described as someone a hot, younger man like to have sex with? How can that be bad? Ever? I tried to be offended, but nah....it was just mildly amusing and to be honest, really rather flattering.

So there you are. I'm sometimes called a MILF and sometimes complimented on having a good rack and on the whole, I'm happy with both. Not very in line with feminist principles, nor is it very P.C. But seriously, who cares? As I said, show me a mother who doesn't want to be a MILF or a woman who doesn't want to have good tits, and I'll show you a liar.

Maybe I should take the time to read more Germaine Greer.....?